Parting with a partner today is easier than ever: religion no longer connects us hands and feet, society is still, responsibility only on our shoulders. But where is the guarantee that new relationships will be better? Psychologists of the English project “School of Life” compiled a list of questions that will help to resolve, leave or stay.
It is difficult for the majority to make decisions on parting. Every day, millions of people around the world secretly ponder this issue from partners. At the same time, they continue to live an ordinary life, and the partners most likely do not suspect their torment. We are waiting for the relationship to give happiness 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. And these expectations make us ask the question: is it normal to at least take disappointment from time to time? Or we chose the wrong partner and we need to break with him as soon as possible? The perception of relations is affected by a huge number of factors: watched films, read novels, friends’ relations.
Hard external limiters interfered with previous generations. Religion insisted: God blesses the union and is angry if He breaks up. Society condemned the divorces and punished both sides for decades of shame. Psychologists explained that the divorce of parents makes children deep and incurable injuries.
But one by one, the restrictions were practically disappeared. Religion no longer intimidates us, society does not give a damn for divorce, and psychologists say that it is easier for children to survive parents’ parting than to live in an unlucky family. The burden of choice now lies only on us. The list of questions will help to make the right decision. He somewhat reminiscent of the game “Devil’s Lawyer” when participants are asked to defend the opposite point of view. Rely on this checklist when you conduct an internal dialogue.
1. You feel unhappy (oh) with this partner or it always happens with close intimacy with others? Without
answering this question now, you run the risk of finding out this experimentally many years later, meeting and parting with other partners.
2. The partner is surely to blame. But did you provoke disagreements yourself? Maybe it’s not so easy to get along with you?
3. Remember what features annoyed you in previous partners. Are they all inherent in your current partner? Perhaps there is something that distinguishes him from the rest.
4. If you are passionate about someone else, try to find out closer to him. What is this person?
5. Try to estimate your chances. How many sexually active, smart and free people you can potentially meet?
